holding conflict differently
mediation & restorative dialogue  facilitation
"every situation, properly perceived,
becomes an opportunity to heal"
conflict is uncomfortable and scary -
​and yet, it is a birthing place of profound growth​ and love

the more i facilitate conflict dialogue's,
the more i experience  this to be true. 
i witness hard edge and rigid perspective
soften and fall away
again and again 
under the immaculate power 
of presence and reflection
how it works 

i facilitate dialogue's between two or more people. 

We will dialogue is a venue that is neutral to the dialoguing and holds the energies of beauty and peace.

Each dialogue is two hours in total. 

The dialogue take a specific structure which i will hold. The structure contains honest self expression, reflective listening and checking, to see if what has been heard is what the speaker wanted to be heard. 

It is radically simple, careful and slow,  and remarkably effective.

There are times that i use my intuition and experience in Non Violent Communication to 'interpret' a message between listener and speaker, if i sense it is needed. 

the aim of each dialogue is simply to hear other and be heard for what matters to us. The outcome of this radically simple aim is not only deliciously effective to rebuild connection and solve problems, but it seems to be profoundly meaningful to those who participate in the process. After all, oxytocin, which is released the moments of deep connection created in the dialogue, is called the love hormone for a reason.

Each dialogue lasts two hours. 
In 99% of dialogues, agreements will be made by design and consent by the parties involved. These agreements have one aim: to care for the relationship of the parties to themselves and/or each other.

This completes the main process. 

Within one week after the main dialogue, we will meet again online for a forty minute 'post circle" to check in and see how everyone is since the dialogue. We also want to see if the agreements were kept and if not, what was in the way of them being kept.

This is the entire process. 

There is nothing to prepare. 
Nothing to lose - except what is not working anymore 
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